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Hey!! Had a few questions for ya...

Boys, don’t read any further. It’s gonna be graphic. Yeah, it’s about the b-word. Boobs. So, stop now and thank me later.

K. So now that we got rid of the creeps, my 4 questions:

1) I have budding breasts. I am 10 y.o. You know, that uncomfortable stage right after flatness where they jiggle and hurt at every little thing. You aren’t there yet? Oh, it’s fun. *sarcasm alert*

2) So many of my friends already got their period and I WANT TO HAVE IT SOON. And no, don’t answer this with a “oh, you don’t want it.” Or, “everyone grows at their own pace.” I just feel kinda left out and I REALLY want to grow.

3) I’m sorta getting curious bout babies...

4) Uh... boys. Like I mentioned before, I’m TEN. Yet I have so many crushes! Is it normal?? My mom started getting her first crushes at like 15, and my dad, well, I don’t really know about him. My mom also told me that I shouldn’t start dating and liking boys until I’m about 12/13 (she was apparently a late bloomer) but I think that I just have those fun, raging hormones that make you have those absolutely great (sarcasm, remember?) mood swings and huge crushes.

Thanks, girls! Boys, I’m disappointed in you guys. I told you not to read this. That might have just changed my mind in y’all. See ya.

Nora

by (110k points)
girl i feel u. I'm ten 2 and I just got breast buds 2. I only have one crush though. And also, I only had one period and its rly not that bad. But theres LOTS of blood. B rdy.
by (55.8k points)
U don’t wanna grow, trust me
by (55.8k points)
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHH THE OWNER OF A BABY?!?!?!
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When do girls start getting a bigger chest? Is it a pain? And what's discharge? (

I'm Just a girl that stresses about this stuff)
by (450 points)
WHAT!?!?!?
by (55.8k points)
Same, girl
by (3.6k points)
Discharge is white stuff that dries yellow in your pants. You get it a few years or so before u get ur period.
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Listen girl, I’m 12 and I already have my period since last year and I have BIG b0obs… you don’t need to worry much abt big b0obies muvh it’s kinda normal but not.. yk? **** don’t worry trust me you will get your period soon and prepare. Because you never know at your age you can get yours so just have some prepared feminine stuff (pads) for future! Oh and panties. But don’t worry too much on b0obs yk, your mom can help u it’s normal :)
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You don’t know about babies yet

[no hate]
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Discharge is a white or clear substance the girls get down there and in there you get it in your underwear. It depends on your own body every one develops at a different time but a round number is 11,12,13

I am happy to help!?



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by (31.8k points)

Omg, I am having the same problem as well. Do you know what I did? 

Breats: So, the first thing you asked, hmm...breasts, so yeah, my breasts are budding and hurting really badly, when I was younger they were all flat now they are a bit more rounded shape, not as much as those 30 year old ladies on TV, but yes, a bit round. Anyways, get a bra. So, 10? Ur 10? Great news...so am I. Don't get a real bra yet. Get a shelf bra. Trust me, it really helps. 

Periods: SO..I ALSO WANT MY PERIOD TO COME SOON!!!! So, what I think you should do is talk to your mom. Really, you should. That's what I did, and talking to someone about my excitement/worries on periods does help. It really does. I thought it would be embarrassing, but my mom actually helped me and she was glad I asked about periods!! Also, it could come anytime, so maybe later you should get pads. NOT tampons, (they hurt), but pads don't hurt. 

Babies: It's okay to be curious about babies, I am too, me, rn, at the age of 10, wouldn't be so comfortable asking this question to anybody. But when I was like 6 I asked it. My parents explained the procces. Not too extremely but..a bit. I kinda forgot it now. But it's okay to ask your parents. It's better than to Google it. Trust me, don't Google it. It's what I did, and I found some NC-17 content. 

  Crushes: Ok, next, OMG, look-your not young to get a crush, do you know when I got my first crush? 7. I know it was so young. Now, I'm 10, and I still have crushes. My mom never talks to us about crushes, but, once I read this kids book, which turned out to be about crushes and cooties. Mom told me to stop reading it, I was like, "Why"?, she was like, "U girls are too young to be doing this lovey dovey stuff" And then I was like-"Too young? When will we be at the right age"? Then she was like, "When you are a teenager". So, no one can control there crushes though, right?

So, later, my sister wanted to watch this episode in a TV show where this 9 or 8 (i forgot) year old had a crush, and I was like, "Why'd u wanna watch that"? She was like, "Because I wanna see them get in trouble". Then I watched it, and instead of the mom in the TV show  getting her daughter in trouble for having a crush, she said  "It's ok if you have one". then my sister was like, "What? It's so bad that she has a crush. She should get in trouble "!!!! And mom was like, "She can't get her in trouble, crushes are just feelings, they are natural, she could say that you should think about this when you are older". So, it's okay to have one right now, my mom was a bit wrong and a bit right, but whoever you like, just leave them as friends.

My friends are waaaay early bloomers, they had their firsts when they were like 4 or 5, and...(whisper) their first kiss when they were 6. They still pretendly date people, but it's wrong. It's okay to have a crush, just leave them as friends for now. 

Puberty for girls sucks. I mean like, boys? Nothing happens to them, their voice is just like-growing. It doesn't even hurt. A girl's puberty does. Also, I can see you hit puberty so, read all of these things, and make sure you are good and clean. Anyways, hope this helped. Bye.

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You can use sports bras too. I recommend more than magic bras and panties

 

- Lolo, (he/him/trans)
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I was around maybe  7 or 8 when I started wearing bras
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Yo I'm 10 eight now and I've had my first kiss and dated someone. Date and have crushes whenever! There's no 'right age'. Also I can chat if you guys give me ur numbers but don't if u don't want to... Actually dont. Anyone can message if u do so dont. Um.... Bye!
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I guess I don't know what to say I'm only 8 so up to 6 more years until my period 

I said UP TO 6 more years

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I feel ya. Being a girl sucks. But it has its benefits.
asked Apr 19, 2022 in Girls' Advice Column by Cookie Yeah
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Totes
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Same
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4 the b-word problem, start wearing a sports bra, it stops um from moving around too much
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Hey Girl! I don't know if this helps, but I am 13 and STILL haven't gotten my period yet. All of my friends are like

"Trust me, you don't want it"

or

"Its terrible! You're so lucky"

And that just makes me flat out scared. I really want it, just so I can fit in, or when all the other girls complain about it, I can say "Oh that's the WORST!" at least!

So yes, its totally normal to feel that way

 

about the breast bud thing...

ITS TERRIBLE! I've been there, hang on! You'll get outta this soon!

 

CRUSHES!

Hear me when I say this..

IT IS SUPER NORMAL TO HAVE CRUSHES!

Don't try to stop the feeling, it is so normal!

One of my BFFs had her first crush at 3!

HOWEVER

I will say that having a "boyfriend" at 10 is wayyyyyyy too soon. I personally would wait until 15--16 ish, when he could drive me to a date, cause your parents driving you is a little weird.

 

So ya!

 

I feel you.

 

hope this helped!

 

-Panda
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trust me, girl. u dont want it. honest.
+3 votes
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Alright! First of all, I TOTALLY get where you're coming from with the periods. I haven't gotten mine yet, so I feel you. Periods are pretty complicated. Everyone DOES grow at their own pace, so if your friends are pressuring you about it, or making fun of you, just tell them you don't care, then maybe hang out with someone else. GHope this helps! <3
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DOnt feel scared or anything. Breasts r normal and natural. About the babies thing, I wouldn’t consider having any. If you have questions about “making” them, ask your parents and they will decide if they should say. Anyway! Answers to your questions,

1. IDK what stage I’m in, I’m 16 and still look 12. I think I’m in stage 3/4 IDK. And YEA I remember that pain. Still gets that way in the week before your period too, so watch out for that.

2. Don’t worry. Once you get it you’ll be like, “oh well”. I understand your view tho lol

3. Ask ur parents o.o

4. Girl.... I had my first crush in kindergarten... mood swings r normal lol.
by
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ive never had a crush, dont wanna get married anyway
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I am 10 too and I haven't got my periodrock l literally no one has started

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me too i realy want my perieod is that normal ??    i will be realy exited  is that normal ?
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Don't worry about it! Don't compare yourself to others. Your not them. I did that for a long time and it makes you feel bad about yourself. Just trust the process. If your breasts are only budding then you have at least a year and a **** till your period comes. You don't want your period it changes your life and cause you so much more stress and worries. I just got mine and I'm thirteen and breasts started budding at 10. Their are so many different signs to tell you around the time your period will come. Look that and take some quizzes about when your first period. Just don't worry and don't get in your head that you really want your period just don't think about. If it will help you then you can make a period kit with wipes, hand sanitizer, lotion, pads or tampons, and mint, gum etc. It is very normal to have crushes at your age that is just your hormones acting up since your starting puberty.
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It is very normal to want it but just enjoy not having it. Your period cause more stress.
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I’m a few years older than you so I understand.

  1. Oh, that is super annoying!
  2. Don’t worry too much.
  3. Idk what to say
  4. I’ve never had a crush before, but it’s okay to have a crush at the age of ten.
+3 votes
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its okay to feel like that im 13 and about to be 14 ive been through all that i got my period when i was 9 and a **** it was way harder for me. so dont sweat it litterly.wear deoderant .my name is leslie  so byye have FUN!jkjkjk



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