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Y’all know I’m bi. I’ve made it pretty darn clear from the first things I posted. I’m not so sure now, though.

Some days I’m 100% sure I’m bi/lesbian, but recently I’m going through a straight-phase and I’m wondering if I’m actually straight all along.

Maybe I’m lying to myself, to get attention (although how can I get attention in my awkward semi-closeted state?). Or maybe it’s to feel different and special from everyone else. Maybe it’s to feel I belong in a community.

My friends all talk about boys and I can’t stop thinking about them any more (boys, not my friends). My boy-crushes have got so much stronger than all my girl-crushes. I actually want to be attracted to girls, because they’re so pretty and nice and everything, but I almost can’t any more.

LGBT+ young people hate it when The Straights say “you’re too young to know”, but maybe I am. I’m only just turned 12 years old, and I’m having a full-scale freakout over my sexuality. I’m not anywhere near the legal age of consent, I’m far too young to be thinking about boys/girls/whoever I end up dating, this shouldn’t matter to me at this age! I should be obsessing over Harry Potter and memes and homework and stuff (although I already do that far too much), not worrying about grown-up stuff. Identity crises are not for pre-teens! Sometimes I make myself so flarfing* mad.

I know that bisexuals get really annoyed when The Straights say “it’s just a phase” or “you’re just confused” or “you’ll eventually pick one gender”, but what if it’s true? What if I am just confused, or in a phase? What if I’m straight? This stupid heteronormative world has got me stumped.

Please help me! I would really appreciate any advice or support from anyone (even if you don’t support it) :)

*all credit goes to Luna for making up that awesomely spectacular word :P



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just because you have friends that are male and female doesn't mean that you're lgbt
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I am actually physically and emotionally attracted to people of both genders, so yeah, I’m pretty sure I’m queer
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1. Thank you for crediting me.

2. If you do not know your label, just don't have one for awhile. There is nothing wrong with not having a specific label and just being attracted to whoever you are attracted to. And age doesn't really matter that much to me, I figured it out at 11 because that is when I figured out what lesbian meant, it was obvious to me. But it isn't always so obvious to everybody, take your time discovering what you are.
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The reason why I don't support labeling yourself at such a young age is that I thought I was bi for the longest time (since I heard of the phrase, when I was eight, I was disgusted until I saw it a lot in the media so I was like, "maybe I'm bi too?") I can't feel what I felt for girls like I did before going to be honest. I think for you, you should just label yourself as straight/questioning (straight is kind of a default and there won't be a pile of questions along w/ it.)

Like I said, now I am 13 in two days, I don't feel what I felt before. I may not be physically attracted to males but I think that's because I'm female or because I'm still young so I will wait maybe. If you are starting to like boys more, than go w/ that.
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It is difficult to know because you cannot know until you actually have had a boyfriend or girlfriend. There is nothing wrong with being straight or lesbian so dont feel like you have to be either. But you dont really jave to worry for now. Many people just say that you have a soulmate or someone you like or love and thats absolutely fine regardless of your gender. I am in the same boat as you though except I have only ever found guys attractive and I think I am in love with on right now  (GOD THIS MAKES ME CRINGE) but I still do find hirls somewhat attractive. But do whatever you like. Like I said there is nothing wrong with being straight or lesbian so we wont judge you no matter what.
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I know this is a very touchy subject for a lot of people, but I felt the need to help you because you are my friend, this is my opinion. PLEASE NOBODY HATE. In my opinion, if you think you’re too young, you are. Everybody has a different maturity level, and a different decisiveness and stuff like that. So, for the time being, I think maybe labeling yourself Queer or Questioning would be the right thing to do, at least until you get a better grip on who you really like. I don’t think sexuality should be something you should have existential crises about, or have to force upon yourself. Just label yourself questioning and don’t look back, once you’re older and of dating age you can decide for yourself who you really like. Hope this helped!



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