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Hello, I am very self-conscious, or insecure (I don't know which one), right now. A guy in my class, I'll call him Mean Boy(I've talked about him before) keeps calling me ugly and stuff, I really don't like it. I asked my school friends today if I was ugly or fat or whatever, and they told me that I am perfect, but I don't know... Should I trust Mean Boy, or my school friends? I mean, obviously I should believe my friends, but what mean people like Mean Boy and my older brother say, always gets in my head... I want to block them out, but I don't know how. Ignoring won't help though, I know that since I'm bad at ignoring people and also since I've tried many times before.

~ Your helpless friend in need of assistance, Wraya <3




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Uh, we all know the deal with Mean Boy... jeez, doesn't he ever give you a break!? 

He's just insecure about himself. That's what bullies do- they bring and drag other people down to their level of misery or below, just to make them feel better about themselves. As the saying goes, "misery loves company!"

Now Wraya, I know that you're beautiful! You're kindness makes you more beautiful than Mean Boy may ever be- There was this quote that I read when I was younger in the Roald Dahl book, "The Twits." At the time when I read it, I was like "yeah, whatever"- As time wore on, I became very, VERY insecure myself. I felt so horrible, that I was ugly and awkward, like the odd one out, out of these other pretty girls with their perfect skin, smooth hair, and lean bodies. I was short, pale, wore thick black glasses, and had not yet found out a way to (decently) control my acne or fluffy short hair (I blame it on the hairdresser- she cut it the wrong way lol). Anyway, the quote went like this:

 “If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.

A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.”
― Roald Dahl, The Twits

I got older, and realized how true this quote really was- most of the physically attractive girls were not who they appeared to be, and slowly, everyone is beginning to see them for what they really are- ugly. You, Wraya, are so kind, and it shows! Like Dahl said, "good thoughts... will shine out of your face like sunbeams, and you will always look lovely." Now, just as a little disclaimer (lol), I'm not saying that all pretty girls are mean.  

Short story short- It's better to be prettier on the inside rather than the out.

Hope that help! Best of luck, my friend! :)

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Couldn't have said it better myself !
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THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! You don't know how many times my mom has said something like that quote to me. You are so nice, I actually got teary eyed, and I am not an emotional person... I'm glad that we have a lot of similarities, it makes our friendship better. Although the similarities are things that make life hard...

~ Your super-overly-happy-friend, Wraya <3

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Glad I could help, my super, overly happy friend :D I am also glad we share so many similarities! It's hard to find people like you in this super-crazy world right now!
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That's so true. I only have like, 3 IRL friends, and a few online friends like you, Thalia, Cuberdude, and Musicmeowcutie. But I'm not sure if anybody I've ever been friends with have shared so many similarities with me as you do. Although there's a 4-5 year age gap.

Question: Can I have your email? (You don't have to tell me, I just want to know you better without the whole KT world knowing, and if you want to tell me, just type it in, and then I'll reply when I see it and write it down, and then you can delete it.)

~ Your friend, Wraya <3

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Of course! This is it, exactly spelled like this:

***********
What should the email be that I look for?
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KS doesn't allow that
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Ah, no! Kudos to them I guess, though. They're big brains.
by (68.9k points)
Yeah. Sad. How will we be able to talk to each other out of KS?
by (256k points)
Idk! I guess this will be as good as it is going to get :/
by (68.9k points)

Yeah... oh well, at least we can talk to each other like this!

by (256k points)
You bet! Lmk if you ever need anything :)
by (68.9k points)

Okay! You tell me when you need anything too! teeth_smile




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