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so...

first i wanna know what you think of the whole wilbur situation

do you still listen to his music or Lovejoy?

because I feel like

sick whenever I see his face or hear his voice

also how did you cope with finding out he's a horrible person?

because I really cant cope with this because he was literally the person that stopped me from dying in 6th grade

anyways please answer..

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OH HELLO SORRY I DIDN'T SEE THIS!

Oh man, anyone who's aware of the situation, please don't come after me. And just by this sentence Akari, I'm sure you can already tell what my opinion is.

Won't lie, I'm going to defend him, but I also feel sorry for what he did to Shelby. It was wrong, nasty... But at the same time, despite his awful 'apology,' what if he did truly believe it was okay? I think they both should have communicated with each other more.

And tbh, I believe a lot of what she said about him! About the love bombing, the switch-up on serious stuff, and that his desire for money and fame took priority over her (sadly). 

But personally? I am huge, HUGE on redemption and second chances. He said he's changed- I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt and say he did. And I know he didn't really apologize, but we can only expect so much from people (again, sadly). 

I still listen to his music, I still have my 'PebbleBrain' sweater, my CD, and I don't see it changing anytime soon. I like his music, both his own and Lovejoy's! 

ALSO- I saw this one comment on a YouTube video. Did you ever listen to Wilbur's latest personal album, 'Mammalian Sighing Reflex?" Although it really focused on topics such as burnout (me too bro), he actually talked about the physical abuse he endured during one of his relationships. The person thought that Wilbur's and Shelby's old relationship would come to light and she would be pegged as the bad guy, so she turned around and told her half (possibly exaggerated) right after he released the album. I have no doubt in my mind though that their relationship was strained and very toxic on both sides, so I think the idea is worth entertaining. Just a little, though.

AND DON'T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON THE CAITIBUG SITUATION- 

Plus, it's not like he can even come on stream and say anything because his mods are all gone :/ It seems like he may just be disappearing for awhile anyways. Lovejoy canceled their most recent shows too, so I'm not sure how this is going to play out. But I really do hope he comes back. And I hope people give him his second chance, and I know I sure will. 

And holy cow, don't even get me started on how crazy Shelby's fans are acting bro- it's bad. Like, REALLY bad.

Anyways, personally, when I see his face I just shake my head a bit and scoff because I'm just a little disappointed. Well, maybe more than 'a little.' But, I don't know, not a lot has changed. Won't lie, still got a big fat crush on that man- but Idk, maybe I'm mentally ill. 

And again, this is just my personal opinion, and you are more than welcome to disagree with me in ALL aspects- I get that it's a controversial subject! 

I just hope you're doing well, and just keep moving forward, and find someone else to watch/ listen to! I HIGHLY recommend the band 'Los Campesinos!"- that's the band Wilbur drew a lot of inspiration from, and it's one of his favorite ones!! AND OH MY GOD I'VE LOVED THEIR MUSIC FOR YEARSSSSS. They've been my top artist on Spotify for three years now :p His latest album, WU&IO, actually stole a tune from 'Weezer,' and they have music very similar to that album XD

And there's SO many indie artists out there!! Although I may not be attached to the band/ artists like I am to Wilbur, 'Lovejoy,' and 'Los Campesinos!," I do love certain songs! Lmk if you ever need any recommendations :)

Listen, in conclusion, my heart goes out to both Wilbur and Shelby. But I am still a Wilbur supporter. 

Good luck man! And I await your speedy response lol.

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Weezer has 6 albums named Weezer, what one are you talking about?
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As someone who loved Wilbur Soot I see your opinion but truly how could there be a second chance here? He had also bitten Nihachu before as seen when she says in a stream “he keeps, biting me.”
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woah ive actuallly never seen this pov :0

I've only ever seen the "WILBUR IS HORRIBLE I HATE HIM NOW RAHHHH!!!!!!" pov and the "I LOVE YOU STILL WILBUR YOU DID ASOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG!!!!!!!!"

from what I'm getting here you're more of an "even though he did many wrong things in the relationship, he might've genuinely not known and both people were probably toxic at the end"

for me, i kind of can't give him a second chance. i really want to, but my image of him is tainted forever because i used to be, yknow, abused as a kid, so, i dunno, i just kinda cant :( and also his apology just wasn't an apology (which you mentioned), AND lovejoy's response just said they're taking a break and didn't mention the situation at all (which is SO upsetting).

here are some band I've used to replace lovejoy in my playlists bw:
➼ good kid (check them out, they're really underrated and they just recently released their 4th EP!!!)

➼ james Marriott (loved his music before the whole wilbur thing too)

more bands but I dont remember them all
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LOL ELO IDK IT WAS THE "SWEATER SONG" THOUGH IDK WHAT IT'S CALLED.

Sup Keigo! Listen, Idk what's wrong with me, but I have always had this HUGE fear that one day, I will screw up SO badly that my friends and family wouldn't forgive me. As a result, I have always been one to give second chances, and that it partially why therefore I am giving him one. I just hope he makes the most of it and I am not disappointed again.

From what it sounds like, he just sounds like a not-great person, but people are acting like he murdered someone. 

And yeah, I saw the Niki stream (wow, it was a long time ago LOL), but why did she joke about it? She laughed? And listen, I TOTALLY understand she may have just been brushing it off. But when it comes to using that specific stream, I'm very neutral about it. I'm not sure if it can be used as evidence or not, for either her or him shrug

And again, I feel awful for Shelby! But I also feel bad for Wilbur, too. And tbh, until more comes to light (I doubt more will, seems like he's just disappeared), I'm just going to keep enjoying him and his music shrug

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That is totally understandable Akari, and I don't blame you at all for not wanting to support/ listen to his stuff! And I do wish that Lovejoy elaborated a little more on the gameplan/ situation too... The email I saw just said it was because of Wilbur's mental health.

And you're right! I should have put in their that I'm not really defending his actions, but I am defending the person himself. I think as you saw in my DM, people are doing seriously messed up things to him, and dropping his address is just one. I can't say the other ones on here. And yes, I truly believe that the relationship was doomed from the start, and that it is very possible that both sides were to blame in it's termination.

I SERIOUSLY appreciate your open-mindedness though! Thank you for that :)

AND HOLY COW, "GOOD KID" IS AWESOME-!!
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OMG EVEN BETTER GO ON TIKTOK AND LOOK AT THE WILBUR TAGS HOLY I AM CACKLING THEY ARE JUST DRAGGING HIM-


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