Should I come out? Am I too young?

Question

Hi, I'm Claire. I'm 12 years old and I'm Bi. I don't know if I should come out. I am worried that I am too young and people will think its just a phase. Also, my father Is homophobic! I need advice.

EDIT: BTW do not send hate to anyone because of their sexuality!

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I'm in the same situation tbh. I'm also nonbinary. It feels good to relate to someone. Ig I'm not that qualified to give you advice that I don't have the guts to take the advice myself right now but know you aren't too young. I'll try though my best to give you advice though. About your father, try to find out just how homophobic he is and maybe try to educate him if he's open-minded. Otherwise I'd wait until I have a safe place and back-up plan for when you do come out just in case. Also maybe tell both that a friend of yours came out and see how they react. It's hard but even if they (absolute worst case scenario) disown you, don't lose hope and remember there is so many people just like you. I'm one of them at least

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I'm in the same situation!  You should not be afraid of being who you are, you are you and you can't change that. This is my opinion if you come out to someone and they just start acting weird and start being rude they where never your friends in the first place. I would wait a little while to tell your parents and try to talk to them about it. Worse come worse And you date your same gender you can just say there your friend. I love you!!!! You got this!!!!

Answer 1

I am in the same situation (12 and not straight) and I am planning to wait until I am at least a teenager and have had a relationship or are in one with someone not if the opposite gender then I will come out but idk if that helps it's just me

Answer 2

i would wait till ur older like in high school right now ur parents still think you are young and the chances of them legitimately understanding and believing you are low at this age.

Answer 3

Hi! i'm lgbtq+ too! Well, what I would do is, once you're ready of course, Just tell anouther person in the household that you look up to alone. Then test the waters on your dad like @Hi told you to. If he's hommophobic, try to educate him. Remember, you are you and you are beautiful! Never be afraid to tell the world who you are!

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LGBTQ IS AMAZING

Answer 4

Don’t think about lgbtq at all. Focus on school, and God. Please don’t do this to yourself.

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She can’t change herself! You can’t choose who you are. You can’t change if you are bi. You just are. It isn’t learned. It isn’t developed overtime. You can’t change it.

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"Don't think about LGBTQ at all" Yeah, that ain't possible hon. Not when you are part of it.

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jeepers hun, she said don’t send hate to anyone because of their sexuality!!!

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It is almost IMPOSSIBLE for people of the LGBTQ+ to not think about that, because it's a pretty big part of members of the LGBTQIAP+ community's lives, and it's not something we can ignore, or change, we are just born: Bi, Lesbian, Gay, Pan, Trans,    Gender fluid,  As*xual. ect.

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Yup.

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Oof, reading this again just *beep*es me off.

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How was kitty hating her ? I didn't sound hateful.

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You're not born bi you're born a boy or you're born a girl that's who God created you to be cuz he has a purpose for you're life if you let him shape you in the wonderful person he will let you become

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Uhhmm... Unicorn friend, Babes listen... If you are going to say something like that, maybe you should know that bi means that you are s*xually attracted to guys and girls. And not quite knowing your gender is PERFECTLY OK and is ACTUALLY called gender-neutral, trans, ECT ECT ECT.

Oh and btw, God wants you to love yourself for who you are, not what other people shape you to be. And people can't do that if others are constantly telling them that they are wrong about themselves. And trust me, I know this,not only because of being involved with people who are mean about this stuff. But also because IM ALL FACTS, NO CAP! haha.    Thanks girlie!

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What if they are non-religious? You can't change you they are!

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Other people don't Shape u God does. And God creates u to be boy or girl u don't choose.

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Gender and s*x are not the same thing… like I have girl parts but I’m technically non-binary.

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Also did you know Eve was created from Adam’s rib so she is trans

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That makes no sense whatsoever lew

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If you haven't experienced that then u have no right to comment on it. Everyone has the right to be themselves

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I still want to know why kitty was being hateful. She obviously said it in good faith and wanted to help.

Answer 5

I know that coming out of the closet takes some work (Take it from a girl who has done it a couple times), but in the end, you need to be happy with who you are. Even if you come out and some people don’t like it, you should always keep in mind that there is always someone out there who can relate. As for your dad, you don’t have to tell him right away that you are bi. To reason with him, you can always say “Technically, Since I’m bi, I like a portion of boys as well (assuming you are a girl). Hope this is good advice, and sorry this is such a long answer.

Answer 6

My mom's best friends are homophobic, too! ( Is this cheesy?)

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Lesbian*

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Oh my gosh why did cheesy weirdo nutball me put dis

Answer 7

I am also 12 and I am a lesbian, just be yourself, but you might want to wait until you tell your dad, I understand how it feels.

-Jabber

Answer 8

I think that it is amazing that you want to come out! And I totally support your actions! But I think it is best if you wait a little. You are 12 right? Maybe come out of you are a little older. One of my friends came out of the closet as Gay and no one (but me cuz I'm his best friend) actually believed it because he was "too young to understand" and stuff. I'm just saying wait a little. Maybe when you are older. I support your actions and decisions! Ty for reading

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I have a few friends who have come out of the closet irl. I have a friend who is pansexual, a couple who are bisexual, one who I am not sure but she has a girlfriend as well as being trans. And I am lesbian myself. They embrace it and their parents for most of them know and are fine. I tried with my mom, she didn't believe me cause I "didn't have a reason I thought I was gay". A couple of my friends will not come out to their parents, homophobics. And my other friends go on about fighting homophobia one person at a time.

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Yes. My friend became depressed because he had a very close relationship with his parents but they didn't believe him at first. But then he got a boyfriend and showed them that he really was gay and happy to be. (My friend is older than me) His parents THEN started to believe him.

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My mom is fine with it, but doesn't believe me. My dad would probably be a more difficult convo.

Answer 9

I am kinda in the same spot...

Answer 10

Hmm... I think you're too young to participate in any type of relationship, not mental and not physical either.

Stay away from these things until you become older, maybe 16, 17 or 18, it depends.

I don't know much about bisexuality, but definitely, I do NOT hate people just because of their sexaulity. What can you do with that, after all? I believe it's made by the hands of the God. What can human beings do with their sexuality? What will you be, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, heterosexual... It's decided by the God, himself. There's nothing to do with it at all!

Be what you are. Hope my advice helps you!

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i totally agree that god made people gay or trans

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Well, technically He wouldn't have made them trans, He would have made them one gender and they switched, though He could create the desire to be trans I suppose.

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He might have created them to be a certain gender, but they ended up a different one? Just my opinion.

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I have a boyfriend and i'm only 11.