Low self esteem issues :(

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**WARNING: INCREDIBLY PERSONAL AND MEANT FOR GIRLS. BOYS, I AM NOT EXCLUDING YOU, BUT THIS MAY MAKE YOU UNCOMFORTABLE AND I APOLOGIZE**

alright now that that's out of the way...

So I have low self esteem issues. I do not go to therapy or anything like that, not that anything can ever make me feel better about my body.

So I will say it plainly: I don't like the way I look. My girlfriend sometimes jokes around about how my...watermelons...are too small. And they are. All the girls at school have the nicest bodies. They all are literally gorgeous. I have never, not once, had someone crush on me besides my girlfriend.

Everyone makes fun of my big nose aswell. I am over 50% german, and my nose is quite large, ngl...

i also have the most boring clothes ever. I never wear anything interesting aside from sweatpants in shades of black or gray or my black hoodie.

I really hate my personality as well. I always feel like people only talk to me because I talk to them first. I try to make jokes and laugh along with my friends even when I don't necessarily understand what they are talking about, and I really hate myself for that.

Its not that I want a lot of attention, I dont. I just want someone to call me pretty once in my life, aside from my relatives and neighbors.

No matter what I do with my hair or my clothes, I never feel like I am truly pretty or that I stand out. I also never know how to act with others. When im with this one friend, Cora, I try to mimic her personality and be an outgoing jokester. But when I am with my other friend, Norah, I try to agree with everything she says and just play along. when I hang with my other friend, Riana, I act like a 'popular' girl and try to make myself feel like I am as gorgeous as she is.

Idk what to do anymore. Every time I feel good about myself, I immedietely feel ugly when im in the presence of other girls at school...what do I do?

Comments

GET RID OF THE OTHER GIRLS . No  I'm joking I used to have the same issue as you. So I live I'n the county and I go to a small school only eight in my class and I had a crush on this boy and I was as sad as you because there are only three girls in my class one had the prettiest hair and clothes with big ammmm, watermelons and the other was really pretty and sporty, so I accepted the fact nobody will ever like me and I decided (corny alert) to be myself and make other laugh 'cos that's what I like to do. Well at the end of  6th year I had accepted my fate as a single Pringle forever, the boys in my class revealed who they liked and 2 out of 4 who actually liked someone, said they liked me! And one of them was the boy I had a crush on forever! So my advice is, be yourself!

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Awww thanks.

Ngl I teared up reading this and you just made my day

Thank you so much

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Thanks! It made my day that I made someone else's day!

Also I was with the two other girls yesterday at my house and the sporty one thought her jawline was really ugly! I had never noticed it before and it was not UGLY, it just wasn't perfect and the other thought she was fat when she isn't in the slightest. so maybe all the girls who you think are gorgeous in your class, think they are ugly and that you are the gorgeous one ( I bet you are !!!!)

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I am so sorry for you I understand all the people in my class are wearing cropt tops and really short shorts and I am baggy t-shirt and sweatpants and also make-up I wear makeup because I am really insecure about my face  but I am trying to be my self and you should do the same and trust me you are pretty just love your self

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I've felt the same way just be you and surround yourself with NicePeople!!!!!!

Answer 1

You are so beautiful! Just be yourself! And also, if you can’t make friends, talk to your school counselor. Counselors help you a LOT.

Answer 2

YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT!!! You are pretty!!!

Answer 3

I bet you're gorgeous even though I (most likely) don't know you. I put the parentheses because there is the tiniest chance of me knowing you.  You seem nice.  Try and ask your parents for more colorful outfits if they say no....ask them to get you a light colored shirt and fabric markers and you can design your own shirt. My sister always says my nose looks like a potato so I know how getting made fun of because of your nose feels. Ask your parents if you can wear makeup to make you look better.  Just become super knowledgeable in a topic of interest and hopefully people will come to you for help. (Sadly nobody does that with MC) Also people may make fun of you now but eventually you'll find your people. I have a few more things but that's all I can think of right now. Also you can put a question in my advice column and we can chat if you want someone to talk to. (I'll TRY and minimize the amount of MC talk on that post if you don't like MC)

P.S. I'm sorry for the long answer. I just wanted to connect with you.