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~ DISCLAIMER: Please do not read if you do not support pride. I am not looking for peoples opinions on that. Also, this is sort of long. You’ve been warned. ~

I am a 13 year old questioning her sexuality. My bestie is doing the same but basically gay in denial lol. My other 3 friends belong to the pride community too (pan girl, lesbian and queer girl/guy). We’re one big rainbow group and it wasn’t intentional at all-

My bestie has had a crush on the pansexual one. I thought it was funny. She always tells me all her crushes and normally gets over them in a month. But recently she’s been telling me “I don’t like her anymore” and then saying “I changed my mind.” Umm… but I’ve been hoping she’s going to keep changing her mind… because I like the pansexual one too. I guess we both have good taste.

But anyways, I’ve been trying to be the supportive friend like “GO TALK TO HERRRR!” It’s kind of difficult to imagine them together, cause I’d rather replace my bestie in that scene… I refuse to tell my bestie my crushes and haven’t told her any of them. The 2 I’ve had this year she also had (popular guy and then that girl) and I just don’t feel like breaking her heart or her shoving me into their arms. But the pansexual one (I’ll call her P now) isn’t taken, has no clue my bestie likes her, and is always very touchy and outgoing, so I can’t tell if she likes me back. I do know though that when she hugs all five of us she often hugs me first. I dunno, P makes me feel nice and happy, and I just kind of easily forgive her flaws…

SO HERES THE ACTUAL QUESTIONS. One, how do I ease into a more romantic relationship with her without making it awkward (you know, not really dating because I’m too young but like.. I DUNNO-), and two, how do I tell my bestie?? I’m in a PICKLE. Please help meeeeeeeeeeeee!

Update: My bestie is being confusing again and saying she’s straight (DENIAAAAL) and then said she thinks P likes me. So I confessed and she was happy for me but I refused to let her tell anyone. But if P likes me… OH GOOD GOD IM FLIPPING OUT GDBSVHEERSRESIUIHIUB



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!!! This is NEWS (IN A GOOD WAY!!!) I hope P likes you back!

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THANK YOU a-=

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:DDDD
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So, one, I like your username (kinda, is it a username if you're not registered?)

Two. Yeah, that's hard. I have a crush on my best friend, but I don't know whether she likes me, although she hugs me. A lot. And I don't know whether it's because she is a very touchy person or if she likes me. But I can tell you this: The way you talk about this person and how you describe this person says. . .she might like you.

Three. Maybe you could tell the person privately or in a note and if you both like each other but are not ready to date, exist as, well, people who like each other. You could say something like, 'hey, I want to tell you something.' Talk about it, and if you both like each other, you can just know that you like each other, and do things kind of dating-y, without exactly dating. If she doesn't reciprocate, that's fine, but you can still be friends.

Four. Maybe you can say something like 'I like this person as well, I hope we can still be friends, I just wanted you to know.'

I hope this helps.
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Thanks! That was pretty helpful, I really appreciate it! And thanks for the compliment! I might actually try and use the username again sometime.

(Oh, also, hugging kind of seems to be a best friend thing. My best friend sometimes WILL NOT STOP HUGGING ME AS I AM BEING CHOKED TO DEATH sob sob. I wish I could help you!)
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Lol yup, another one of my friends does that. Yeah, I love the username! It's fine that you can't help me, I just hope everything works/goes well!



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