I’ve posted something like this before very briefly, and I don’t think I need advice anymore as much as I need conformation.
I think I like my gender, so, girls. I also know that I am attracted to guys. This “liking girls” thing started around the beginning of last year when I started to really understand the lbgtq+ community (half my friends were part of it. Someone literally started a gay club.) After I thought about it, I realized I liked the idea of being with a girl and have had a dream or two of this. I’ve never actually had a first kiss. This leads me to a sort of problem, that I’m only 12. So technically I don’t think I can decide yet. I still have a long time to sort things out.
Term-wise, I used to believe I was bi. I went back and forth from bi to straight to lesbian and back to bi. Like I said, I think I like both main genders.
BUT THEN I DISCOVERED PANSEXUALITY.
AND THATS WHEN I BLOSSOMED.
Reasons why I think I am possibly pansexual:
-I have attraction to girls and boys
-I have liked trans women
-I never focus to much on genders rather than the personalities and looks
-I like the flag (lol doesn’t really do anything)
-I took like 5 different sexuality tests. 3 said I was pan, one was bi, and somehow I got asexual
So this might also mean I could possibly be.. uh.. I can’t remember the term.. polysexual or something. Like that sexuality where you like 3 or more specific genders. I don’t know if I got that right-
Am I pansexual? Do you guys think so? Any tips or advice or anything for helping me find out?
Thanks for reading this, I appreciate you!
Update: Also have realized that I like men much more romantically and women much more physically. I dunno if that changes anything. Also, I saw trans men. I was very confused because thats when I realized it is much easier to tell who is trans when the person is a woman. The men literally look like men. I like them but I LIKE THE DRAG QUEENS BETTER OKAY- (I’m a girl though :/)
I’d like to add the fact while I’m at it that I don’t want to tell my parents. My mother thinks the LBGTQ+ community is weird. She tells me she’d have more respect if it weren’t so popular right now. The reason why it’s, ahem, “popular” is because it’s more widely respected now, and every day kids are being introduced to this and REALIZING THINGS. Her problem is she’s got a co-worker who went by “she/they.” The co-worker snapped when my mom called them “she“ because they had changed their pronouns to “they/them.” They aren’t a nice person at all, I get that, I met them before and they are a complete snob. But at least have some respect…
I think my dad would understand, though. He is highly accepting. I feel like if I came out, it’d be to him first. Which seems very backward compared to most people, but yeah. At least I have a good parent. BUT HAHAHA IF I COME OUT THEN BYE BYE TO MY ENTIRE MORMON FAMILY (Grandma, grandpa… everyone but my dad and aunt.) BECAUSE ONCE THEY FIND OUT THEY WILL BE LIKE, “Oh, I guess pansexual is going to hell.”
Meh I actually don’t like them too much so.. yeah theres your useless information I felt like getting off my chest. Again, thanks for reading.
- ANOTHER UPDATE: my brain is so broken from this that once I asked in the title what my gender identity is and then got really confused when it said i liked women physically. I THINK KIDZTALK CHANGED IT FROM THE ONE I SAID TO PHYSICALLY. WHAT I MEANT WAS SE- you know what I don’t need to finish that.