what should I do if I’m scared of my dad?

Question

He doesn’t hit me, but he’s.. scary. Not intimidating, it’s to the point that I fear when I hear footsteps or people coming up the stairs.

He pounds on my door when I take too long to get dressed or sleep in.

I get annoyed and even scared when I have to go home when he’s the only one there. He scares me.

My mom is super nice, but it seems that to her the only way for me to be scared of him is if he hits me. She even works in Youth Mental Health.

Is it my anxiety and paranoia making everything worse?

I’m too scared to tell anyone because then they’ll tell my dad and he’ll get mad and say that he never did that or that he’s sorry, but then he just does it again.

I think I might be beyond scared.. I’m terrified of him. But I can’t leave. If I leave then he might get mad at my sister, and I need her to be safe. He doesn’t scare her, he’s nice to her. I need to keep it that way.

I can’t talk to anyone and I can’t talk to him. What do I do? Please help

Answer 1

Just stay calm If anything happens I am hear to talk on this site every day  except weekends

Answer 2

Well, first of all, your dad still does love you. They always do, even when dads get super aggressive they tend to miss their children EVEN IF THEY WERE ABUSIVE. But he isn’t abusive right now. If you can, while your mom is around, try to tell him he makes you a bit uncomfortable. Only if you think this is a good idea though. I think that… he’s probably going to get very terrifying. Try to avoid him when you can, it will help your anxiety a bit because you’ll be less afraid of him hitting you. And you have got to tell your mother. You just have to. You will feel so much better.

I’m here for you if you need it, breathe!