Am I asexual?

Question

(I can't find the LQBTQIA+ column...)

Am I asexual?

I don't really like any boys, I imagine they will like me first. I just wanna be a hard worker in life and I don't imagine to go on dates or like any boys. Sure, I giggle at funny jokes on virtual learning but it doesn't mean I like them. I am only in third grade this may change when I grow older. Idk?

I cannot imagine myself kissing a boy. Like too gross. (Dont get offended)

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Btw I'm a girl

(im animal__________fan)

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I don't wanna embarrass you but are u animal crossing fan?

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Yes... 

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I PUT ALMOST MY COMPLETE USERNAME DIDNT I

OOPS

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It’s ok! Don’t be afraid! I’m bi and the only people I’m afraid of coming out to is my family!

Answer 1

1. The LGBTQIA category is in clubs, so If you scroll to "Clubs" a second dropdown menu will appear and you can pick the LGBTQIA Club :)

2. Okay, so if you're in third grade, you'd be around 8 or 9. Most of the time, there is no major attraction to anyone at that age, I'd say most romantic attractions appear around preteen and teenage years. That said, I ain't gonna bring up the "You're too young" argument. I would just see how your romantic attraction develops the next few years, mk?

3. I see here you only mention guys. If that's the only thing you are basing your thoughts on, you may want to consider other genders before saying asexual. And if you find that you don't feel an attraction to anyone around you (again, I recommend seeing how that develops), then it is likely you could be asexual. There is also something called demisexual that is possible too. With demisexuals, you don't really feel any attraction towards anyone, until you form a strong emotional connection with them. 

 

My main advice is just to wait a little while and see if you still feel no attraction. If you don't, alright, fine. Just don't settle too much. One variation of the Q does mean questioning, and it's perfectly fine to be that.

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I'm turning ten next December so that's when I'm a preteen. And thx! This is very useful :)

Its super helpful!

Also about other genders I'm pretty sure I'm not gay

And if I am asexual that's gonna effect me pretty bad. I want to have a husband and kids but I wont like any boys to be my husband! Maybe I will be demisexual who knows?

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I would like to show one more thing-

Aromantic and asexual are two terms for non-attraction. Aromantic is where you don't want any emotional relationship beyond friendship. Asexual, you don't want to kiss or any of that, but you are still okay with an emotional relationship, just none of the more physical stuff. A lot of people use asexual as a term for aroace (aromantic and asexual), although they do differ slightly. If you still want an emotional relationship with someone, but none of the kissing or anything, that's fine, that would be asexual. And given you have specifically mentioned husband, I'm guessing any emotional relationship you would want would still be with a guy, and that would be heteroromantic, meaning you would like to have an emotional relationship with a guy. And again, I would wait a couple of years to see how your attraction develops. With being younger than the 11-16 range, I just feel your attraction to others is still developing. Whatever you end up being is fine, just don't set yourself as asexual until you have developed more of an attraction. After a couple of years, if you still feel asexual, then that's fine. As for the having kids thing, since that isn't really possible on the biological kid side for asexuals, adoption would still work, or foster kids. I plan on adopting a kid at some point in the future.

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*sighs* How can u be so helpfullll? Ty Lunaaaaa!

I just saw the "im not gonna bring up the "your too young" argument "

Yes I hate it when someone says that

(No offence knight or queeny)

Now I'm sounding like I'm gay

:/ im not gayyyy

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With the age, I typically get preteens and teenagers having different attractions, but for someone who hasn't gone through puberty or has not had any chemical changes for them to develop those attractions, I just recommend waiting at least until puberty for any attraction to appear. It doesn't mean that they couldn't be ace, it just means that the non-attraction could potentially be just because they have never had the hormonal stuff every other teen is cringing at while reading this.

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HOW. DO. U. KNOW. THIS.

U R SOOOOOOOOOOOOO HELPFUL

Answer 2

Nah. You're just young. No 1 to 14 year old doesn't have disgust towards intimacy. I'm 13, turning 14 in two months, and I'm still disgusted towards the idea of kissing a boy. At eight years old, which is your age (unless you're a year behind), the idea of it didn't even cross my mind.

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I'm nine actually eheh

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*coughs* I'm 13 too Knight-

Answer 3

Honey, you are a child, I would be concerned if you were having sexual feelings at that age. At least wait until puberty to decide on who are are, because you just seem like a normal kid to me. You don't need to label yourself right now, so don't feel pressured to. Just enjoy being young (says that like I'm a granny-) and don't worry about relationships.

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Lol u do sound like a granny (NOT THAT U R ONE)

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True Queeny

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“At least wait until puberty”

“I am only in 3rd grade”

I’m in the same grade and puberty happened when I think I was 7 NOW WHAT?!

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(Not periods, just the beginning)

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Mmm actually I was already in puberty when I asked this so-