Hey everyone.
This is the update to my previous post, if you didn't see it you might wanna check it out or this is going to seem weird. Anyway this is what the convo with my dad was like..
Me: *literally shaking* Dad, what do you think about pronouns?
My dad: I like them, I guess? Why are you asking?
Me: Well, how would you feel if someone were using the wrong pronouns on you? What if you wanted to use he/they pronouns instead?
My dad: *long pause* You're just confused. I don't know what you mean.
Me: *about to cry* Dad, I want you to use he/they pronouns for me. I'm uncomfortable with she/her pronouns..
My dad: *continues ignoring me*
*we had to enter the Tae Kwon Do school right then so the convo was cut short, this next convo is what we were talking about on the drive back home*
(During the session: The entire time during the session I was about to cry. He ignored me and acted like my pronouns didn't matter. He's a really great father and I don't know why he can't respect them. He thinks just because I'm 12 I can't decide what I want, he thinks I'm confused.
He continued ignoring the question, except this time I was mad and I had to cut out most of the convo because I said things that are definitely not allowed on here or anywhere, so here's the car ride home conversation)
Me: Dad, stop ignoring the question. I already explained how I feel, why can't you accept that? Just do this one thing for me, please.
My dad: *blatantly ignoring me* I don't know what you mean- Oh hey! Look at that odd looking dog; greyhound, I think?
*he continued trying to distract and divert the conversation away from my pronouns and that really really hurt*
Me: *just getting mad at this point* What the actual- stop trying to change the subject! Why can't you understand what I'm trying to tell you-
My dad: Why are you getting mad? I don't know what you mean!
Me: You know full well what I mean; I've said it multiple times! And of course I'm getting mad, I can't even get someone to respect my pronouns or my gender! How do you think I feel every time I get called a girl?
My dad: *dead silent, no doubt trying to think of more ways to change the subject*
Me: Dad, I want you to use the pronouns I want!
*we pull into driveway and I get out of car, literally about to have a mental breakdown*
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I'm crying right now so I am so sorry that this is kind of rushed. I don't know what I did wrong, but he just doesn't listen. He is an amazing dad but I don't know why he acted that way.
He's ignoring the whole subject and playing dumb. I dont know what else to say, but this just hurts me. I hate my mom and now my dad won't respect my gender and I just don't know what to do anymore. I also said some very unalive-myself things in front of him, and he ignores it! He ignores the signs I am literally telling him straight to his face.
If im not posting my usual happy content or if I don't post at all thw next few days, then I am so sorry. I need some time to clear my head. Thanks for all the amazing words on my last post, you all are more kind to me than my irl family. We aren't blood related, but I consider all of you my relatives :)
Dino out.
- Dino
